Once again I am sitting on my ass eating Bon Bons while watching Oprah. I think I deserve it after the hellish weekend we had…luckily I think we are all on the mend.
The show was about surrogate mothers in India and IVF with Martha Stewart’s daughter. The surrogate part almost made me cry. Unless you are faced with the thought of never becoming a mother I don’t think you understand the great lengths you would go to in order to be a mother. The controversy was Americans or other rich countries taking advantage of the poor countries. In America it is $70,000 or more (according to Oprah) to have a surrogate carry your child. In India it is $12,000.00 of which about $5,000.00 is paid to the surrogate mother. A family could work their entire lives in India and never make that much money so it changes their lives dramatically. Personally I don’t think it is taking advantage of the woman since both woman gain what they want. The woman of India are not forced to become surrogates, but choose to do so on their own. I think it is atrocious that it cost $70,000.00 in the States for the same thing and woman pay it because the need to become a mother is so great.
As for Martha Stewart’s daughter going on national television and talking about IVF….I think she should do a little more research before she makes a complete ass of herself while talking about something that she clearly knows little about. The end.
p.s
To the woman at Smiths who said that Heaten was too pretty to be a boy and wouldn’t Shenzie make a better boy…*SMACK* NO silly lady…I’m sorry, but I will not get sex changes on my children just to make you happy. As if!
My “too pretty” son
My “boyish” daughter
October 9th, 2007 at 4:57 pm
Lesley, I just finished watching Oprah, the whole “Womb for Rent” seems like a win-win for the women. Martha Stewart’s daughter was really creepy, she didn’t seem real genuine about her desire to be a mom, I hate to say this, but perhaps she’s not a mother for a reason.
October 9th, 2007 at 5:03 pm
Okay, I’d like to rescind my comment about Martha Stewart’s daughter, I can’t edit my comment my previous comment so I’m just posting another comment. Yes, she was creepy, but she might be a great mom, perhaps she was just nervous about being on Oprah?!!
October 9th, 2007 at 5:14 pm
I hear you..very creepy with the whole \”its a chore, job\” thing. And some of the comments she made were not accurate at all! She definitely didn\’t do any favors to anyone getting ready to go through IVF…she wasn\’t educational at all!
October 9th, 2007 at 6:10 pm
Maybe she should talk to me. I can tell her what it feels like
not to be able to conceive! What a jack ass. I was not a candidate
for IVF due to my age. Thank g-d I wasn’t too old for adoption. When we were
trying to conceive the only thing I knew without a doubt was how badly I
wanted to be a mother. I am now.
October 9th, 2007 at 9:08 pm
Did you read the article that she did in People about her IVFs? Strange chick that one. I wish I had seen the show.
October 10th, 2007 at 4:56 pm
The woman in Smith’s-was she old? It seems like the older people say exactly
what is on their minds! Don’t people just annoy you?
October 11th, 2007 at 7:58 am
[…] Seriously…what is wrong with people!?! I’m a pretty friendly person. I talk to strangers, smile a lot, and am pretty outgoing….but I don’t really like people all that much. Well, I don’t really like STUPID people all that much and this world is chalked full of stupid people. I try not to be rude if I can help it, but lately it is becoming harder and harder. When I take the babies out in their double stroller we get stopped a lot. Walmart is the worst…every 5 seconds someone is stopping us to ask about the babies…and like any mother I’m proud to show them off…to a point. When I’m PMSing, in a hurry, grouchy, hungry, or the babies are tired, hungry, or fussy DO NOT get in our way. Last week I took the babies to Walmart. We were leaving the store after being out and about for an hour and half and the babies were ready to go home. My trick for a fast getaway is to avoid eye contact and walk as fast as the stroller will allow to discourage strangers from stopping us. Most times this works…that day it did not. A lady coming into the store actually put her hand out and stopped the stroller so she could see the babies. Are you kidding me?!?!?!? DO NOT under any circumstances stop our moving vehicle or I will bite your hand off! No, instead nice Lesley doesn’t say anything but answers the crazy ladies questions with a smile while inside I am fuming. Then of course there was the Smiths incident where once again I smile politely while the lady insults us. You’d think I would have learned my lesson by now right? Sometimes you just have to be mean and rude I guess. Yesterday we went to Wild Oats (an organic, all natural type of store). As we were leaving a lady stops us outside and gets up in the babies face tickling their toes *Cringe*. Shenzie did not have an afternoon nap and was very tired. She starts to fuss at the lady so I say…she has major stranger anxiety you might want to stay clear. That is pretty to the point, right? Apparently not. The lady then gets even closer to Shenzie who starts to cry. Meanwhile I’m trying to steer the stroller around crazy lady, but she just won’t move. She then says…maybe it is their diet…it could be what you’re feeding them. You know food plays an important roll in emotions and behaviors…when I eat salt I get mean. Ummmmmm. Are you F’ing kidding me!?!?!?! First, why in the hell do I care if salt makes you mean. Second, Shenzie was clearly scared of crazy lady so move the f*ck out of the way! I should have said ‘yeah, you’re right….all of the unseasoned, steamed organic veggies, fresh fruits, hormone and antibiotic free organic chicken, tofu, and rice milk they eat must be making them emotional’….or I could have just rolled her over in our stroller and been on my way. […]