When I’m out and about with the babies I get asked a lot how hard it is/was. My answer is the first four months were brutal and it has gotten better since then. While this is true, it is not the entire truth. I know a lot of Moms in real life and online who have twins and they seem to be doing fantastic so of course I don’t want to be the one whiny mom who complains about how hard it is. So not to be the twin mommy whiner…but the low down dirty truth is having twins is really, really hard. I think all moms will agree that becoming a mother is hard. And then you add another baby to the mix. Another crying, screaming, hungry baby. Learning and fulfilling the needs of two separate babies was really really hard. Those first four months are such a blur and I could never imagine surviving that again. I look back and am amazed that I survived at all! And I’m sure in a couple of years I will say the same thing. Looking back at the toddler years how did I ever survive! The upside to twins….twin love. Melts my heart every time.
Twin Love from lesley barr on Vimeo.
My advice to new moms of twins or those pregnant with twins. Ask for help. Any help. Cleaning help. Cooking help. Help to get out to the store. Help to go to the doctor. Help in the form of visits to keep your sanity. If you can afford to do so get night help or a cleaning lady. If you are pregnant and not on bedrest (lucky you) cook and freeze things for later. And just know that it DOES get easier while still managing to be hard at the same time. =)
October 20th, 2008 at 7:42 am
It was hard with the two I have individually, I CAN’T for the life of me imagine how in the world you do it. You’re totally my hero and the best mom I know.
October 20th, 2008 at 8:11 am
My twins are lovey with one another too, but not as lovey as yours. That is too sweet!
October 20th, 2008 at 10:45 am
Oh my goodness, talk about Melting My Heart To Pieces. That is so so sweet!! They have to do sweet stuff like that to keep us from ripping out our hair!! Sometimes when I have had a bad day I go in & just watch them sleep. So sweet & innocent, WHEN THEY ARE SLEEPING:)
October 20th, 2008 at 10:54 am
Wow is that sweet! Phenomenally sweet. Twin love does make it all worthwhile,
and thank goodness because we twin moms need it!
I agree that it is so hard. When I read my blog entries from those first
few months I do not know how we survived. But here we are, stronger and
happier (though with more wrinkles and gray hairs).
October 20th, 2008 at 11:42 am
Yes, I agree. I swear toddlerhood is one of the hardest things I have ever gone through! They just don’t stop… until they sleep! lol
Good luck!!!
October 21st, 2008 at 5:56 pm
It takes everything I have to make it through each day with my girls (18 months). So, feel free to complain - it only makes you human! And it makes the rest of us feel better (me, at least) to know that other twins moms are struggling. I always felt like it was my goal to make it look easy, but I’ve long given that up and now I just try to not complain too much.
That video — there are no words. It is priceless.
October 21st, 2008 at 8:20 pm
I agree. We always say the first three months suck. I think the hardest part is that they are different people. Totally. Never do they want the same thing at the same time. No one ever tells you that. Around here trying to deal with three completely different personalities is the most challending thing some days.
That being said, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. And the correct answer to “How do you do it?” Is ” you just do. Certain things can’t not get done, so you just do.”
Your babies are so cute together. Mine hit a lot, but I think that comes with boys.