We have been VERY lucky as far as sleep is concerned at the old Casa de Barr. The babies started sleeping through the night (term used loosely) at around 7 months. That is not to say we didn’t have to get up with them at that point. To say that would just be silly. I would say around one year sleep got really good where we didn’t have to listen for every sound and worry whether the babies would need us. It also works to my advantage that Jeff is a night owl and stays up until 2am so any early night wakings fell on his “shift”. At two years old the babies never (and I really mean never) wake up and need us. I can count maybe one time in the last 6 months I’ve had to get up in the middle of the night and that was only because Shenzie threw up and Jeff needed help changing her sheets. Shenzie slept in her own vomit and didn’t even cry out. Jeff found her lying in bed fast asleep covered in ick. When they are sick with colds they sleep through the night. When they are overtired, undertired, crazy, growing, not growing, sick, healthy, they sleep through the night. I LOVE sleep so this is a true miracle.
From the age of four months we have had the same nap and nighttime routine which has helped more than I can ever express. Even if the babies are running around like lunatics at 7:59 and we pick them up at 8:00 for bed most times they lie their heads down and settle right in. Some nights I can hear one or the other in their rooms singing softly or talking to themselves for up to an hour, but they never need us.
Naps are also a breeze. After the dreaded FROM HELL nap transition from two naps to one (which seriously took like 2-3 months to fully happen) life has been good. At 12:50 I let the babies know that they have 10 minutes to nap. Most days Heaten will sit on my lap and drink milk while watching Elmo while Shenzie runs around like a crazy person. At 1pm I take Heaten to his room, close the door, sing him his three songs, give him a drink (that he isn’t allowed to take in his crib), kiss him night night, and walk out. I don’t usually hear from him again until 3:30, sometimes even 4 when I have to wake him up. Same thing with Shenzie although she tends to wake earlier than Heaten.
The other thing which helped their sleep TREMENDOUSLY was giving them their own rooms. As much as I didn’t want to separate them and as much as I hate my “office” in our bedroom it was really for the best. They both sleep so much better apart from one another. And when they are older I think it will be nice that they have their own space (especially since they are boy/girl). They are together all day long so I don’t feel bad about them getting a little break at night and naps.
So there you have it, sleep is wonderful. Why then you ask would I even question mixing things up?!? Recently I have read on several other twin mommies blogs how their kids go to bed covered with blankets, sippies, many toys or books, pillows, etc. My babies get their one lovey and one cuddle blanket. We don’t cover them with a “real” blanket, they don’t get drinks in bed, no pillows, nada. So maybe I am the mean Mommy who keeps things from her kids and then I worry. And then I slap myself in the face for worrying. If they are sleeping good with none of those things they (my babies, not yours) obviously don’t need them so why rock the boat. It’s not like we live in cold snow territory where they might be cold so they really don’t need a blanket for warmth. And then of course I think that maybe a pillow would make them more comfy or a blanket would keep them warmer or what if they wake up thirsty or or or. And then I read the moms who have to go in their babies rooms 3-4-5-6 times a night to replace the drink, recover the feet, put the animals UNDER the blanket, and then put the animals OVER the blanket, and and and. And then I stop worrying again, because really, the last thing (and I mean LAST THING) I want to do is miss out on sleep. Spoiled rotten is what I am and loving every minute!!

December 23rd, 2008 at 8:17 am
I say if it’s working now don’t mess with a good thing. Mine just recently moved to big boy beds and are doing great with the pillows and blankies. I hardly ever have to go in for those things, what I do have to go in for is dropped or lost binkies and lovies, but mostly binkies. I know I need to break this habit but I have no idea how to without losing preciouse sleep. I don’t look forward to taking them away.
December 23rd, 2008 at 12:40 pm
For the LOVE OF GOD do not change anything :)!! Count yourself lucky and go with it. I need to forward you a picture of Will and Alex’s cribs…it is insane. Will is not so much a pack rat but Alex is over the top. The big thing right now is wash cloths. Yup, wash cloths. I have no idea how all this started but in order to sleep they need “many towels”. Nuts!
December 23rd, 2008 at 1:54 pm
I agree, don’t change what is working. I wouldn’t worry about letting them have animals or blankets/pillows. Mine have those and are fine, in fact Tiernan has a ton of animals. But we definitly don’t allow drinks, hard toys (they can bang the crib with) or similiar things in there.
December 23rd, 2008 at 5:31 pm
M&J use a pillow and blanket but not because they need it or want it. I think it was just soemthing we instinctually did you know, cause we use one? Same with the animals, they don’t need their animals we just put them in there for them to cuddle with if they want. In fact every time they go down there is usually a different set of animals in their crib.
We do not let them have drinks in their cribs.
I will sneak a book at their feet after I turn out the lights so that they have it when they wake up. Gives them a little entertainment so I don’t have to get them immediately when they wake up.
I wouldn’t think that a toddler NEEDS a pillow for comfort. I know when I sleep on my stomach I prefer no pillow at all.
We’ve been doing great in the sleep department too. It’s such a nice place to be
December 26th, 2008 at 9:03 pm
Oh goodness, if it ain’t broke. Most of the things in our kids’ cribs were to
try to deal with problems — stuffy head waking you up, try a pillow. Need mommy
in the middle of the night, try a lovey. Teeth bothering you, try a teether.
And we turn out heat down to 62 at night so they need blankets.
And that, my dear, was not a LONG post about sleep. You’ve got a long way to
go to reach a long post about sleep =) Merry Christmas.