I think every little girl dreams of the day she’ll become a Mother (much to my husbands dismay). You dream of the perfect pregnancy, an easy delivery, instant bonding with your precious newborn. Nights spent rocking in a chair singing lullabies to your little one. With great certainty I can say I missed out on every single one of those. Twelve weeks of bedrest, gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia, emergency C-Section, NICU, and twins. There was no rocking in chairs while feeding a baby, there was no instant bonding, there was no cuddling together. I was in a constant state of anxiety over the constant crying, feeding, burping, and trying to get two little ones to sleep at the same time. I didn’t get to sit and hold one baby because the other always needed something.


Fast forward 2.4 years. This morning I sat on the couch with Shenzie curled in my arms like a baby singing Rock a Bye Baby over and over again while we looked into each others eyes. Thinking about it at this second makes me want to cry. It was such a sweet, tender, precious moment just like I envisioned it would be (only a couple of years late). Heaten sat playing quietly while Shenzie asked for one more, one more, one more song. So I gave her one more, one more, one more song. She sang along with me at the end before playing baby was done. Of course when her turn was done Heaten wanted his turn to play baby so I scooped him up, started to sing softly to him, and what does he do? Headbutts me. Typical boy.


February 3rd, 2009 at 8:37 am
I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I feel cheated out of those early memories that other people seem to have. The first time I really had that moment was when Nate had a vomiting virus and he got so dehydrated that he ended up at Urgent Care at 10 months old. I got to rock him and sing t to him and he slept on me. It was a really wonderful feeling.
February 3rd, 2009 at 2:49 pm
Totally understand this too, and I agree, it is ironically, easier to do this now and I take every chance I can to cuddle, kiss, rock my babies!
February 3rd, 2009 at 5:13 pm
Ha!!! Too funny.
How was your trip? How is Schulie?
February 3rd, 2009 at 5:14 pm
Schmulie.
February 3rd, 2009 at 9:27 pm
so precious. your post made me tear up because I can so relate.
February 3rd, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Oh my! You have me crying and then BAM laughing.
I absolutely love those moments when you just can’t help but cry when you’re holding them.
Precious, precious babies.
February 4th, 2009 at 12:36 am
I love those moments. not the headbutting.
Porkchop used to stroke my face with his tiny hand and then poke me in the eye.
February 5th, 2009 at 8:21 am
Oh, I know exactly what you mean! My twin girls are 3 1/2 and I still feel sad that
I missed out on those moments (I had a great pregnancy, but c-section at 32 1/2 weeks
and one in the NICU for two weeks and the other for six.) Just like you, we’ve had
them since, and I treasure every one of them!